Metaphoric Cards
of Association "TANDOO"

Create your own space to grow

a space to

prioritize your mental well-being

TANDOO paintings illustrate scenes from the lives of couples, symbolizing the feelings, desires, needs, conflicts and resources that constantly appear in relationships. They reflect different stages of these relationships: getting to know each other, falling in love, intimacy, passion, longing, mutual joy, conflicts, jealousy, violence, fear, pain, alienation, separation, etc.

If we talk about a couple’s life as a journey, then a map-sign can be a kind of guide to the territory of decisions and tasks. These cards can be considered as signs, symbols, pointers for us and our partners: watch out, take care, change direction, don't go in that direction or change your speed. Maps with road signs are used to reinforce, guide, show directions and obstacles that arise in relationships.

We offer you 2 exercises that you can perform, both independently and in pairs!

Metaphoric Cards "Tandoo": "What do I want from a relationship?"

Goal:

awareness of your goals in relationships and ways to achieve them. Each partner works separately)

*Before you start the associative game, prepare a piece of paper and a pen to work out the request as much as possible.

Progress:

Each partner works independently.
Determine 3 important goals that you want to achieve in partnerships in the coming year.
Rank them in order of importance. Rate their importance from 1 to 10.
Openly select a card with an image and blindly 2-3 cards for each goal. Save an image of the cards or take a photo.
What do the cards say about ways to achieve what you want?

Reflection:

Did you like what the cards led to?
What do you want to change?

Compare your notes with those of your partner. Explore how each of you achieves a common goal in your partnership.
What are the same and what are different about your ways of achieving your goals?

What do you like about your partner's way of acting?
What do you find unacceptable or difficult?
Do your positions and actions contradict each other or complement each other?

Together, choose a sign card that will represent a bridge between your way of acting and your partner's way of acting. How will this affect your relationship?

Metaphoric Cards "Tandoo":
"Hidden Scenario"

Goal:

discovering the hidden scripts and programs that control our relationships.

*Before you start the associative game, prepare a piece of paper and a pen to work out the request as much as possible.

Progress:

Choose 4 cards face up and use them to answer the following questions:

Card 1: How do I see myself in a relationship?
Card 2: How do I see my partner in the relationship?
Card 3: How does the partner see himself in the relationship?
Card 4: How does my partner see me in the relationship?

Compare and make notes: